Mrs. Alexandra Kpikpi
Children need to feel loved and secure before they can thrive physically, emotionally, spiritually and educationally.
It can be helpful to think of each child as having an emotional tank (just as a car has a fuel tank). If their emotional tank is full, they can take on the day with all its demands and cope with everyday challenges well. If their tank is empty though, they are like a car without fuel. They quickly stop functioning well. A child who is constantly running on a low emotional tank will show deficits physically, emotionally, spiritually or educationally – or maybe in more than one way.
The positive things we can do to show our children how much we love them (which we discussed last week) are all things that will keep our child’s emotional tank topped up.
Some things that we may do as parents, however, drain our children’s tanks and – worse – undermine their faith in our love for them.
Sometimes we do these negative things because they were done to us by our parents . We didn’t like it when our parents did these things, but yet we end up doing the same things with our own children. Let’s examine ourselves, think about our history, and break the cycle. We may have to ask for God’s help to break free of some of these behaviours.